“if you write,

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your lessons become your legacy.”  This quote from T-Swift resonates with me, big time… as so much of her writing does, for so many people.  She was just honored at the Time 100 Gala this week, in her acceptance speech she referenced Nora Ephron’s quote stating that “everything is copy”.    For writers when you break it down everything truly is copy, if you let it be and if you are comfortable with putting it out there, every experience, good or bad, every perspective, every relationship.  When you make your life your copy, as Taylor so often does, you have a chance to work through your thoughts and feelings with regard to your life experiences and more broadly, how your life is unfolding.  You have a chance to tell your truth, in the way that you perceived your life experiences to have played out, everyone is entitled to that, whether it is about “Bad Blood”, your “Reputation” or a “Love Story”, your story is yours to tell and that can be so liberating.

I’ve been doing a lot of reading, in full disclosure, 99% of my “reading” is listening, so I guess it would be more accurate to say I’ve been consuming books.  I’ve always respected the art of the written word and have never been (by my own standards) particularly good at it.  Perhaps that is why I took a long hiatus from this blog.  Self doubt, struggling with content and purpose, who wants to hear what I have to say, or better yet, how I am saying it, all crept into my head.   I had to take steps to build myself back up to a place where I felt comfortable writing.  Currently, I am reading You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, so far it’s pretty great, I am writing this blog post, so for me, it’s working.  A dear friend and fellow “self improvement seeker” suggested the book some time ago and I am SO glad I’ve finally taken her up on the suggestion.   I’m feeling motivated, confident and a whole lot of self love.  I am on a mission to “raise my frequency”.

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While we’re on the topic of “the written word”, I’ll take this opportunity to share some of the books I’ve enjoyed recently.  Each of these books inspired me in profound ways.  They are beautifully written, (see the covers below) each features a female character as it’s centerpiece, a woman/girl that had to overcome seemingly insurmountable odds in order to realize her true greatness.   I’ve read a number of memoirs; Educated is one of my favorites, Tara Westover did not let her unusual (terrifying) upbringing stop her from becoming the brilliant “Badass” she was born to be.  The women at the center of Where to Crawdads Sing” and Circe were dealt equally as rough hands in the game of life, they too found ways to overcome their circumstance and prevail.  These three heroines, did not come to greatness without making mistakes, experiencing heartbreak, giving way to doubt or insecurity, but they pushed on and ultimately changed the trajectory of their lives.  I’ve made innumerable mistakes in my life, I’ve said and done things that make me cringe and I am positive there are many many more mistakes to come.  This is who am I, this is the life I’ve got, and I want to make the best of it and be the best person I can be.  I don’t think that is possible if I don’t make mistakes and learn from them, acknowledge them and share what I’ve learned and how I’ve grown and I can move on.

Back to Taylor and style…I am loving the pastel theme driving the campaign around her big 4.26 reveal…to be straight, I love pastel colors they conjure a feminine, happy feeling for me.

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Here are some of my pastel selects for spring! The petal pink Bailey44 cross over top is such a pretty color.   I am loving the tie dye trend, I’ve only recently dipped my toe into the tie dye pool with this iphone case (warning my screen is already broken…not so protective) , this Alice and Olivia tie dye tee is perfectly pastel and wearable.  I am 40 plus so I’ve pretty much aged out of the whole crop top look, but I do like shorter hem lines on a top paired with a high waist line skirt and pant.  I think its a classy take on a trend that doesn’t always work for women over 40.  This lemon yellow Black Halo two piece dress is exactly what I am talking about!!  Something Navy, has yet to disappoint, I’ve loved so many pieces in each line they’ve offered to date and the price point is oh so good, I love this green sorbet (their words not mine) Low Back Cami.

Ice blue, I love you!  I don’t have any weddings this summer, but if I did I would be ordering this Halsten Heritage Drape Gown, I love the high neckline and the “little bit of leg” drapery, it’s pretty fab.  For a more casual take on ice blue, this sweater Sablyn Violet Sweater is so pretty and cozy looking for cooler spring days.   Finally, a purple pant, I won’t mention that my husband inadvertently threw away a gorgeous pair of lilac paper bag pants, that I had worn ONE TIME…maybe he was confused by the fashion lingo…I digress.  I’m a huge huge covet-er of Smythe clothing, I do not, yet, own one item from the brand but their pieces are impeccably structured and made with high quality fabrics, goes to the old adage you get what you pay for!  For a higher price tag these lavender Smythe Boot-cut pants are super chic

More pastel pretties

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* Yes Please to this whole outfit!!

*This dress is TO DIE FOR!

*Love this dress and you can get the look for less here.

*Just put this in my cart…love the print and the shape!

*And I’ll leave you with this pretty number, so ethereal

xoxo

Daryn

Is it cool that I said all that…

I’ve never been short on words, in fact, I can probably be described as the opposite.  I am, however, someone who has often walked away from social interactions and over-analyzed, even worried about how my opinions, advice, commentary might have been perceived.  Caring about what people think can be seen as a negative character trait, I’m not exactly sure where I land on the issue, it’s certainly circumstantial.  I’ve undoubtedly become less concerned with people’s opinion of me since I turned 40.  That said, taking a chance on my hand as a lifestyle blogger clearly puts me in a position for my opinions and commentary to be scrutinized by others.  Good bloggers care about their follower’s opinion and it’s clear, that’s why we follow them…right?!?
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A few years ago I watched the “Made in America” documentary with Jay-Z, he claims that, “Every human being has genius level talent, there are no chosen ones, God has gave everyone genius level talent, you just have to find what your good at, and Tap into it.”   It energized me, am I a genius, nope don’t think so, but can’t deny that I have a certain level of talent with regards to the things I am passionate about. 

Hoda Kotb’s book about what we are all truly meant to do is a collection of stories of people realizing their passion and turning it into greatness.  Hoda also has an awesome and inspiring instagram handle, check it out.  My mom gave me Lisa Sugar’s book, it is equally as inspiring and maybe a tinge of a stinger as I’m that girl who had a similar idea years ago.

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Where We Belong, Hoda Kotb

I am forever inspired by images on pinterest, this spring I am in search of a sleeved maxi, I’ve been drooling over the dress in the image below since the first time I saw it.  Zimmerman has some pretty versions like this floral number , this Ulla Johnson makes my heart go pitter patter and this Alexis dress can be worn as a kimono or a dress…so versatile, this hot pink Milly would be so perfect for a summer wedding.